It's a horrible thing to say about someone I'm supposed to be so close to but it's true!
We've been friends for about 10 years now and, over the course of the last year or so, she's turned into a really self-absorbed person.
Her life revolves around sex, weed and getting drunk. All the time. That's it. She has a son yet still does this shit!
I get ditched whenever a man takes interest in her and, when she's kind of seeing them, I don't see her for months because sex and getting stoned are much more important. Then, when they turn into fuck heads who treat her like shit I get weepy phone calls "Why can I ever find someone nice?", "From now on it's all about my son and my Shelly.", "I'm never falling for this again."
A week later and it all goes back to what I've just described above.
Over the last few months she keeps calling me so we can go on a night out and catch up, have fun and just generally forget about menfolk for a while. Everything gets planned down to the last detail but, usually about an hour or so before I'm due to meet her, she'll cancel on me and give a lame excuse as to why. It happened last night as well...I called her up in tears REALLY needed a friend to see and speak to so she said she's shopping with another friend but would call me as soon as she's done so we can go somewhere and talk............................it never happened. I was sat and home all evening bawling my eyes out instead having mum try and talk to me, but it was a situation where I needed my friend.
I'm so angry because she's done it to me so often now. I just don't know what to do. It feels like yesterday was the last straw, but I don't know what I'm supposed to do about it from here.
Thing is that I drop EVERYTHING for her. Whenever she's needed someone I've been there; spending the last of my money for travel just to sit with her for a few hours and make sure she's ok. I answer the 3am phone calls and listen to her cry down the phone for hours about how she has no one there for her. When she's been pissed off by something and hurled the abuse at me I've taken it.
It seems now though, whenever I've needed her, she just doesn't want to know or says she'll be there but never shows.
6 years ago